One thing I have failed to understand

[libra4love89]

One thing I have failed to understand is why do people in a relationship already,feel the need to join a dating site.If something is missing from that relationship,then end plain and simple,don't go and fool around on the other person(whether they know it or not),I understand that sometimes that isn't always the option on the table,but if it is then do it!!.To be quite honest it's rather annoying to come across a profile and see that this is person is a relatioship already or living with a significant other.
Now if your in a relationship and looking for platonic friendship that I can understand,and be ok with that...the latter not so much..

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`Its just a sad fact they have no morals! it is not only on here or similar sites its in the rest the community too.

I meet men in my day to day life and a some have asked if they can see me again but it only takes me a few minutes to find out if they are with someone else even though they say they are not , i think most men (not all) are just plain stupid or think we are.

A couple of years ago i had a man on the internet doing my head in just not taking no for an answer so as i had already found out he was married with children i thought i would put a stop to him and teach him a little lesson . I waited untill Christmas eve and agreed to meet him at a place i just picked on a map , i then gave him my old mobile/cell phone number telling him if he gets lost just give me a call , i was just sitting at home and the phone rang and he asked how much further have i got to go? so i asked him where he was and he told me so i looked at the map and told him he had missed the turn and he had to go back about ten miles and turn left , this went on for a while untill he called me and said i am neary out of petrol (gas) where is the nearest garage? i just said i hav'nt a clue i am about 100 miles away and ---- up and turned the phone off.

I got a message from him after Christmas and for some reason he was not to pleased with me because he had done an all round trip of over 200 miles and had told his wife he was going out to buy her an extra present and that took any tiny bit of guilt away from me at what i had done but i did offer to meet him as long as it was at his home with his wife and children there too , i never heard from him again.

As far as i am concerned if just like you have said if anyone is not happy with thier wife or partner then just leave them not cheat on them.

Some say they have an open relationship! its all lies because if it was open then the other person would not mind meeting the new partner, it just makes the word open meaningless.

[libra4love89]

`HAHAHAHA love that!!!!Very creative I must say!

Exactly!that is how I feel.Usually if I meet a guy in public and the question of "are you seeing anyone"pops up I honest,but I watch how the other guys acts,because usually I can catch them lieing.And yes majority of the time they say they're in an open relationship all I think is "bull----...its only open on your side".

Definitely Love your point of view Julia.

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` Hi Libra! pleased you liked it , i could not put the whole event here it would have taken to long , it was just the fact that he was willing to leave his wife and children at home alone on Christmas eve that made me do it .

I have to be honest in my life as it would not be worth living if it was all lies and i realy cannot see the point in lies anyway because everyone gets found out in the end and if a person cannot be honest from the start then what is the point in it at-all?.

I do think (actualy i know) that we get lied to more than genetic born females do because nearly all of my friends are genetic females and they do not have the troubles i do with men , in the last year i have had to show 2 of them my door (i don't know if they liked my door i did'nt ask lol) but i have had to vertualy push them out because they thought they were going to have --- with me on the first night! strange creatures some men are but i am sure there must be some good ones out there somewhere , well if there is not we all may aswell give up and become nuns.

I just took a look at your profile and you look realy beautiful so i am sure you will find him hopefully very soon and at least you have age on your side where as with my they will be digging my hole soon!
"In the name of the father and of the son and into the hole she goe's" .

Take care and all the best Julia .

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`A lot of men have fantasies, not to say I am devoid of them myself, I just try not to express them in a way that will hurt others. Many men, unfortunately see transsexual women as objects to be played with, likely justifying their infidelity with things that probably are better off not repeated on the forum.

You already know I think you're beautiful angel face, I know you will find the perfect man for you. We're not all like this - I promise ya.

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`John! i know and Libra proberbly doe's to that not all men are bad and it is a real shame that the others give good men like you a bad name.

She is beautiful is'nt she? and it is not fair that she even felt the need to start this post but thats just the way some men act then make us feel like toys they can just disgard when they have had enought and then go on to find the next girl to break another heart , i would hate to see that happen to such a lovely girl like her.

I had an email from a younger man a few weeks ago from this site living in London and he was realy polite and said he wished he could meet me , i sent a mail back saying well if you realy want to i will be in London tommorow then the daft sod deleted his account on here! i guess he was not expecting that i would be in London the next day and done a runner ( can't blame him realy) but i only suggested a meal before i returned home , maybe he thought he would have to pay for the meal or something but me thinks he was just playing silly games.

So when are you and Libra getting married lol and can i be a bridesmaid?..

Take care and see you at the wedding Julia .

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`Oh that bites. I have the opposite issue here, there just is no transsexual community where I am. I mean there are gay folks, and some are pretty feminine and all, but no actual transsexual or transgender ladies at all, or if there are I have yet to be introduced.

Heh - As for that wedding, a guy can dream. :P

[libra4love89]

`Aww thank you for the compliment Julia
And yeah it is a bit sad that I had to,this is something has been bothering me for quite awhile now.And yes majority of men who are interested in transwomen,from my experiences,only see us as a ------ of sorts,sex object and quite frankly it is quite annoying.Its like there is more to me than just that,get to know me as a person before --- is even brought up..And as far as that boy goes,yeah maybe he was playing a game.Its ironic to me to see someone post in their profile that they dont like head games while the deal them and play them..quite funny when you call them out on it...

John,you know I think of you as a sweetheart,really is sad your miles and miles and miles away from me,and god do I love your humor lol.

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`well i think its hard to meet peeps if single or dating on these sites im straight or so i think thought tried invain on sites to find ------- date friends tv ts in uk no luck so became iterested myself and found the thought of ------- was perfect for me but impossible to meet find friends or any through sites
my bi ex girlfriend used to like me to dress for her and found it sexy then as pics
im non scene not into guys but -------s -------- seem perfect gay guys to camp not of interest i thought of becoming ------- pills hormones breast implants maybe but thought of wearing wigs as hair thinning just ruins whole idea chance of being convincing and passable
but maybe more chance of finding ------- ------- pals partner if i did so who knows best single celibate me as would be first time for all

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`Hey modernguy! you sound very confused about your own identity .

I don't think this thread was started (correct me if i am wrong Libra) for replies such as yours! you need help.

I am going to try to figure this out and with your lack of capital letters commers and fullstops i will guess where your sentances end/start.

Ok you say "i am straight or so i think thought" and your not into guys but -------s -------- seem perfect gay guys! so i guess that means you think being with a ------- or ------- is being straight? They have male genitals!!!!!!! and you just called them gay guys and you think that is straight? that is your interest "the male genitals" or you would consider a post op or genetic female.

You then go on to say that you have thought of becoming a -------/------- taking hormones and having breast implants? .People do not just wake up one day and decide to change sex! you would never be given a hormone from any doctor in the UK and if anyone considered giving you breast implants then they would be incompetent.

Then you say your hair is thinning and the thought of wigs just ruins your chances of being convincing/ passable! so how do you think real transexual women get by if they have lost thier hair? they do not stop being themselves they just get on with life.

You cannot find a -------/-------! well here is a genuine offer for you.

I am a pre op transexual (not a ------- -------) but i will give you the chance to see what life is realy all about .You can spend a day with me in a town centre in daylight and you will do the traveling because i am not wasting my time or money because its highly unlikely you will turn up but your not to far from me , i am actualy a nice person (so my friends say) and do not bite but you "will not" get to come back to my home or touch me because all i wish to do is show you that for one there are trans people out there and 2 show you how easy it is to have a happy life "but" to have a happy life you need to find yourself first and you have not yet done that and at your age you realy should know what or who you want from life and most of all who you are where ------ity is concerned.

And i will even buy you lunch.

Julia.

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`Hi Libra at least you have a good head on your shoulders to be able to figure out life and the way men think! there are many girls your age who whould just think it is perfectly natural to be treated the way we are .

As for the compliment! you may have gathered i always say what i feel and you realy are a beautiful and intelligent woman and your not ashamed to show it either and you deserve the greatest respect from any man.

I do truely hope you find him and also wish you a long and happy life with him when he comes along and i know you have the sense to also be rid of him if he treats you bad! you stay in control and never allow him to break your heart.

Take care Julia.